Charleston, SC - Aug 21, 2025 - After analyzing over 1,000 infidelity cases across the Southeast, veteran private investigator Brian Stillinger has uncovered disturbing patterns that could save marriages—or confirm your worst suspicions.
"In 25 years of catching cheaters red-handed, I've learned that infidelity isn't random," says Stillinger, owner of Stillinger Investigations, Inc. "There are specific personality types, professions, and behavioral patterns that make someone statistically more likely to betray their partner's trust."
His findings challenge everything we thought we knew about who cheats—and why.
The Shocking Psychology Behind Serial Cheaters
Stillinger's research reveals that certain Myers-Briggs personality types are dramatically more prone to infidelity:
The "Thrill-Seeking" ESTP: These adrenaline junkies live for excitement and novelty, making monogamy feel like a prison sentence. "They're the ones having affairs in hotel parking lots during lunch breaks," Stillinger notes.
The "Idealistic" ENFP and INFP: Ironically, these romantic types often cheat while searching for their "perfect" emotional connection. When reality doesn't match their fantasy, they seek it elsewhere.
The "Disconnected" INFJ and ISFJ: These sensitive personalities may appear loyal, but when they feel emotionally neglected, they're surprisingly vulnerable to affairs that promise the validation they crave.
Meanwhile, personality types like INTJ and ESFJ show remarkable resistance to infidelity, prioritizing loyalty and long-term commitment over temporary thrills.
The Professions That Destroy Marriages
Stillinger's investigation identified the career fields with the highest cheating rates—and the results will surprise you:
- Medical professionals (especially women) - Long hours and life-or-death stress create dangerous emotional bonds with colleagues
- Trade workers - Travel schedules and male-dominated environments fuel temptation
- Teachers - Summer breaks and school conferences provide ample opportunity
- IT professionals - Late nights "debugging code" often mask something else entirely
- Entrepreneurs - Power, success, and flexible schedules create a perfect storm
"I've caught doctors having affairs in hospital supply closets and teachers meeting lovers during 'professional development' conferences," Stillinger reveals. "The common thread? High stress, irregular schedules, and close relationships with attractive colleagues."
The Warning Signs Cheaters Can't Hide
Despite their best efforts at deception, unfaithful partners exhibit telltale behaviors that trained investigators recognize immediately:
- Digital paranoia: Suddenly guarding phones like state secrets
- Schedule mysteries: New "work commitments" that don't add up
- Emotional withdrawal: Becoming distant while projecting blame onto their partner
- Physical changes: New clothes, cologne, or sudden interest in fitness
- Defensive aggression: Overreacting to innocent questions with anger or accusations
"Cheaters think they're master manipulators," Stillinger explains, "but they follow predictable patterns. The guilty conscience always reveals itself."
Why Cheaters Almost Never Confess
Even when caught with overwhelming evidence, unfaithful partners rarely admit the truth voluntarily. Stillinger's research shows they're driven by:
- Fear of consequences: Losing their family, home, and financial security
- Reputation protection: Maintaining their public image and social standing
- Emotional self-preservation: Avoiding the crushing weight of guilt and shame
- Control tactics: Using denial and gaslighting to maintain power in the relationship
"I've presented cheaters with photos, videos, and phone records—and they still deny everything," Stillinger says. "They'll gaslight their spouse into questioning their own sanity before admitting the truth."
The Path to Healing (Or Freedom)
For betrayed partners, Stillinger emphasizes that knowledge is power. Whether couples choose reconciliation or separation, having concrete evidence eliminates the torture of uncertainty.
"Some marriages survive infidelity and become stronger," he notes. "Others need to end for everyone's wellbeing. But living in limbo—wondering if you're crazy or if your instincts are right—that's no way to live."
About Charleston's Most Trusted Private Investigator
Brian Stillinger leads Stillinger Investigations, Inc., South Carolina's premier private investigation firm with over 125 years of combined experience. The company operates six offices throughout the state, employing 12 full-time licensed investigators who specialize in infidelity cases, child custody, digital forensics, and corporate investigations.
Unlike amateur "spy apps" or DIY surveillance, Stillinger's team uses professional-grade equipment and legal investigative techniques that produce court-admissible evidence while protecting clients from potential legal complications.
For more insights on infidelity:
- Top 10 Professions with Highest Infidelity Rates
- 6 Secrets Caught Cheaters Don't Want You to Know
- Catch Your Cheating Spouse in Charleston, SC
Contact Stillinger Investigations for a confidential consultation:
Brian Stillinger, Owner Stillinger Investigations, Inc. 170 Meeting Street, Charleston, SC 29401 Phone: (843) 212-1338 Available 24/7 for emergencies Website: investigatesc.com
Additional offices: Columbia, Lexington, Greenville, Rock Hill, and Myrtle Beach Toll Free: (888) 699-3350 License: SLED License 1586
Stillinger Investigations provides discreet, professional investigative services throughout the Southeast, helping individuals uncover the truth and reclaim their peace of mind.
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